Tuesday, June 28, 2016

What I have learned


I've learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.

I've learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back.

I've learned that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.

I've learned that it's not what you have in your life, but who you have in your life that counts.

I've learned that you can get by on charm for about 15 minutes. After that, you'd better know something.

I've learned that you shouldn't compare yourself to the best others can do, but to the best you can do.

I've learned that it's not what happens to people that's important. It's what they do about it.

I've learned that no matter how thin you slice it, there are always two sides.

I've learned that it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.

I've learned that it's a lot easier to react than it is to think.

I've learned that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

I've learned that you can keep going long after you think you can't.

I've learned that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.

I've learned that either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I've learned that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.

I've learned that learning to forgive takes practice.

I've learned that there are people who love you dearly, but just don't know how to show it.

I've learned that money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I've learned that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.
I've learned that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up.

I've learned that I'm getting more and more like my mom, and I'm happy about it.

I've learned that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.

I've learned that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

I've learned that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.

I've learned that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.

I've learned that you should never tell a child her dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if they believed it.

I've learned that no matter how good a friend someone is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.

I've learned that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I've learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I've learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.

I've learned that sometimes when my friends fight, I'm forced to choose sides even when I don't want to.

I've learned that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other. And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.

I've learned that sometimes you have to put the individual ahead of their actions.

I've learned that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.

I've learned that if you don't want to forget something, stick it in your underwear drawer.

I've learned that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.

I've learned that the clothes I like best are the ones with the most holes in them.

I've learned that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

I've learned that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.

I've learned that there are many ways of falling and staying in love.

I've learned that no matter the consequences, those who are honest with themselves, get farther in life.

I've learned that many things can be powered by the mind, the trick is self-control.

I've learned that no matter how many friends you have, if you are their pillar, you will feel lonely and lost at the times you need them most.

I've learned that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.

I've learned that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.


I've learned that the paradigm we live in is not all that is offered to us.

I've learned that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

I've learned that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon.

I've learned that although the word "love" can have
many different meaning, it loses value when overly used.

I've learned that it's hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people's feelings and standing up for what you believe.

I've learned that writing, as well as talking, can ease emotional pains.

Saturday, June 4, 2016

Our end of the year presents for teachers/aides

The last day of school finally showed up. As a mom, I have mixed emotions with this. This day brings a lot of reflection of years past and how my babies are growing up. It also is a day of excitement (and a whole lot of anxiety) for the future! And then you get the whole Not having to wake up at 5 to get them all off to school by 8 thing...which includes a constant repeated phrase of "GET UP, ITS (fill in the time, which is usually said in 5 minute intervals), I'M NOT GONNA WAKE YOU UP AGAIN...YOU'RE GOING TO GO TO SCHOOL WITH WHAT YOU HAVE ON." Then the fighting amongst the kids about the bathroom, the clothing, the couch, the shoes, the lateness to school, the whose sitting where in the car....oh the list goes on and on. So, this is done and not having to worry about for 3 months...YAY. But I have a whole new set of issues for the summer...
We're bored. Do you have any money we can borrow to run up to ____? The whole not helping around the house...OK...the whole...sitting around the house and not helping. LOL.

Then we have Kenny. That's a whole post in itself. I will say that we started the last day of school off with a seizure the night before. It was a focal seizure. He just got really quiet and stared...but it was definitely seizure activity brought on by nothing. He has a cough but no fever or anything else. 

We also haven't heard from anyone pertaining to summer camp for Kenny...so that means...he will be home with us all summer...everyday...with me chasing him up and down the street. I really wanted him to actually have a fun summer without having me chasing after him while he runs into the street towards moving cars or having meltdowns on an hourly basis because he's so bored. This whole "respite" thing...the whole having help for families with a special needs child is a joke. and that's all I'm going to say about this whole situation.

OK, back to the real reason for this post...the last day of school and what I made for the teachers and aides!
Its a "two gifts in one" gift! I bought these plastic wine tumblers
 a few months back knowing that I wanted to use them for something. I mean, having a sign/vinyl graphics guy as a husband does have some pretty fun perks. I was able to create these cute wine tumblers with a cute saying I found online. There was another saying I wanted to write...it went something along the lines of "I've heard much wining this year...it's my turn to start", but decided to go with this one...
I bought 4" house plants from Walmart as well...I knew I wanted to do the whole wine glass thing...but then, I also wanted to do the "thanks for helping me grow" thing as well.
Well, it just so happened that with some pretty colored netting, paper sticks, tape, a printer and quart sized baggies, I was able to make a perfect gift!
 I printed out this saying and taped it to a stick. I added a pretty flower just so it wouldn't look so generic.
I put the baggie inside the tumbler, and the plant (which fit perfectly) into the opening of the tumbler.
Taped the "sippy part/lid" to the bottom of the tumbler and then tied the three different colored netting together and wrapped it around the tumbler to make a pretty bow...
 
 and there ya go...a 2 in 1 gift that a teacher or many well deserved teachers/aids...well...anyone that has helped your child throughout the school year, can enjoy all year round!

As for the teachers and aides that I made these for...they are 100% top notch. 

Kenny has learned so much this past year. I have tons of praise for these special people in our lives. I am so thankful that they love and care for Kenny as much as we do. If I could give them a million dollars each...I totally would....that is how much I love these people!


Saturday, May 28, 2016

Just Yesterday...

How is it possible that you are graduating high school?

Wasn't it just yesterday that I graduated high school? Said goodbye to all my close friends and the life I knew best...8 hours of school...

Wasn't it just yesterday that I slowly found my way into this thing they call...adulthood? Lots of college classes, new friends, staying up and out late at the clubs, finding a real job...like...not in retail or fast food...like...actual adulthood job...

Wasn't it just yesterday that I peed on a stick and was excited and scared at the same time at what was about to become my new life...taking care of a new life? 

Wasn't it yesterday that I learned what it was to be a mom for the first time. Changing diapers, cleaning up spit-up...and dealing with your colic? Where dad and I tag teamed late night (all nighters) rocking you to console you from crying...listening to Chicago...over and over again. God, I can relive every moment of that time just by listening to their songs.
Wasn't it just yesterday that you took your first steps, recited every baseball players name that was on the Indians in 1998...and we had people looking at us like you were a freak of nature, because there was no way a 10 month old could actually be talking this well...let alone recite a whole baseball team!

Wasn't it just yesterday that you went crazy over your new siblings...one by one.
Wasn't it just yesterday that you started kindergarten. I remember crying a little bit because my first born was going off to school...just starting your school years. Making sure your shirt was perfectly tucked into your pants because if there was a little bit of bunching...you'd flip out. I had to make sure your belt wasnt fastened too tight, the seam on your socks weren't irritating your feet, and your hair had to be just right...

Wasn't it just yesterday that I got sooo irritated with you for wanting a sippy cup of strawberry milk or Sunny D late at night, when I was so exhausted from taking care of your little sister, but got it for you anyhow...and how you looked at me with a smile...and your eyes crinkled up as you said, "thanks momma, I love you".
Wasn't it Just yesterday that you loved Boy Scouts, Monster Trucks, Skateboarding at Chenga, playing computer games (Nancy Drew, Freddy Fish, Lego)?
Wasn't it just yesterday that you had your 8th grade clap out? I was so excited for you...yet nervous for you to be going into high school.
Wasn't it just yesterday that you cried and didnt want to be in marching band...yet I knew...I just knew that you had something special with your self taught talent on the drums...I just knew you'd love it.

These last 4 years we've been blessed with sharing your high school years with you. The band events, the dances, the prom...
We've watched you transform from a boy to a young man right before our very eyes.
 
Wasn't it just yesterday that all these memories have been filling my head. How proud dad and I are of you that you will be graduating high school and starting your adult life. 
I'm not going to lie when I say that the road we took raising you wasn't rough...it still is. You are very much like the best and worst of both dad and I...but know that we love you, care for you and want the Now all the yesterday memories are flooding in and my...our oldest child...our first born, will be graduating high school. There are too many emotions that come with this feat...happy, excited, proud, scared, nervous...and yet a little sad because that I wish I could go back in time and change many things (being a parent isnt a very easy job...with no "how to" manual)...Yet I know, that because of the yesterdays, you are you today...and for that, I am proud of you and feel a sort of accomplishment as a parent. 

I cant wait to see what the next 18 years of tomorrows brings. 

I...we love you




Sunday, May 15, 2016

A Special Communion and 9th Birthday

We celebrated Kenny's 9th birthday along with his and Gina's First Holy Communion a few weeks ago.  So, keeping up with my crazy...boring life....I decided to have a huge blow out with family and friends. With Kenny & Gina being the last of our kids making their communions...we had to end it in style...and that we did!!!

I made Gina's headpiece like I have for every one of my daughters. I made them with painted metal tiaras encrusted with Swarovski crystals, beads and rhinestones. They have the options of wearing them for their wedding day.
 And, because Gina is Gina...my rough and tumble tomboy...I wanted to surprise her with white high tops to wear under her communion dress...
 
 Of course, I had to make Kenny his Milestones for Micros shirt...I mean, we were gonna be celebrating his birthday that day as well!
 The morning went without a hitch, I mean...who needs sleep. 7-8...or 3 hours...no difference! haahaa
Only reason I stayed up late was because I was getting the food ready to be thrown in the ovens,
the salad and the veggies cut up, the cupcakes frosted, the house decorated....and of course...the clothes and showers done.
 It.was.perfect! 
We and Kenny's PSR teacher have been working with Kenny to take the host and sip wine, like Gina and the rest of the kids
...but in the end, just be getting a communion blessing is all we could get out of him...which was perfectly fine. When the time comes that he willingly puts the bread and wine to his lips, he will then receive communion...until that time, he understands and can go through mass like every other communicant.
I love these pictures of Gina receiving her first communion. She is such a blessing to me. I love her spunky, laid back ways. She is so smart and helpful with her brother that sometimes she even sees herself as a big sister to Kenny.
(this one is my favorite)
This is Kenny getting his blessing
God knows that he tried. He did do everything else...except for the host and wine to the mouth...it wasn't gonna happen.
So we made it more about him being and doing what his peers were doing. We want him to be as typical as possible. To experience everything a typical child his age does...so he doesn't feel "different"...and we are holding true to this!

Here are Kenny and Gina doing their songs for the service...
 We have a wonderful family picture of the kids...
 and with Grandma & Grandpa Tomecko
 And Auntie Denise (my oldest sister) and Uncle Eddie (my husbands twin)
Here they are with their PSR teacher whom I give all the credit in the world to. She never had a special needs communicant in her class, so it was quite challenging...but she really pulled it off and made Kenny feel welcomed. Not to mention, she helped show the other kids in the class what being a true christian was all about. The kids all took Kenny under their wings and really were wonderful with him.
And we even got a great family picture of our clan...We actually do clean up well...

After the church service, we went back to the house to set up and
put out the food which I was preparing all week long.
it included Eggplant Parmesan,

  city chicken,
sausage and sauerkraut, ham, roasted veggies and a huge salad.
Then family brought even more food.
To top it off, instead of a simple cake, I made a gazillion cupcakes, all different flavors!

There, we greeted all of our family and friends. It was such a nice turnout! We feel very blessed to have so many great friends and family members that are part of our lives...truly blessed.

We also sang Happy Birthday to Kenny (and Nick in Heaven)...
(Kenny is standing next to his best friend Claire, who is in his class at school. They share the same speech therapist as well. He loves her so much)
 Notice how he was trying to blow out the candle!!!!
He always has to hug!
Gina was having a great time at her party...but couldn't wait to get out of her dress!
Kenny was excited to open up his gifts.
...now to get these Thank You cards addressed and out.

Onto the next events to end this school year:

A seventh grade dance,
A prom/after prom (that tony and I are on the committee for)
and...
Graduation from high school/grad party!
...did I mention, I still have to plant my vegetable garden and flower beds?